I remember growing up in the Bronx NY as a little kid up until the age of 11 1/2, and feeling like I was all alone with hardly any family. I graduated 6th grade that year and during that summer, we moved to Forest Hills, NY. My whole life changed after that move, even though it was just a relocation from one borough to another one in NY. The neighborhood is still to this day beautiful and clean with lots of interesting people.
Forest Hills is much more affluent, and has more professionals living there compared to my neighborhood in the Bronx during that time. It was 1975, when we moved to Forest Hills, and it was a big change for me because I was starting 7th grade at Halsey Jr. High School. I remember feeling nervous because I did not know anyone and was always a quiet child in the back of the class. I really had to learn to meet new kids in a different location and get used to the neighborhood too. It actually took me 3 years to feel comfortable and adjust to everyone there. So this was my very first life CHANGE or TRANSFORMATION!
Change can be as scary or dramatic as we make it! Ever since 1975, I have made tremendous amounts of transformations in my life. Since I did not have such a great relationship with my mother, I am grateful to a long term neighbor around the block from my mom's apartment in Forest Hills during those years because his family encouraged me to go to college. My mother always told me that I don't belong in college and just go find some kind of job. So my friend, J.A. took me out to lunch one day and told me it is very important for me to go to college. He knew how I was growing up and felt bad for me. It was a hard time for me at age 16, and I had to strengthen myself to go to college the following year. I love college until today. I enjoyed all of my courses and friends during those days. So I went to middle school, high school, and then college. I still did not have a career in mind, but I always love to travel.
I worked in quite a few jobs during my teens and through college, then I started my career in the Travel industry within cruises and hotels. I realized after college at my graduation in June 1988 that I finally finished my B.A., had a job and thought it was now time to start a family of my own.
However, the part I did not yet talk about here is that I come from a broken home and my mother was divorced. I was raised with my mother and older brother. It was a very difficult time for me growing up with abuse and anger all the time. There was lots of arguing, yelling and fighting in my home most of the time. I had no father in my life because he never came to see me. So I never knew what it was like to have two parents together. It is really amazing how I got to be where I am today with all the painful memories and upbringing I endured growing up. How was I supposed to find a husband without having an example in my own home of a healthy loving relationship?
During my college career, I remember dating guys, but I was not sure about developing a committed relationship that would lead to marriage. I started to read all kinds of books on dating, relationships and marriage. I really did not exactly know what marriage consisted of in order to have a loyal happy relationship. I am so grateful for a couple of friends that I had in my early years in High School because their parents are so happily married, and that is exactly what I needed to see in my life. They were always holding hands. Oh yes! I am still a romantic kind of person and very sentimental too!
I also had a friend in college for 3 years that is from Israel and her parents are still happily married until today. I always saw them together at home and at work too. You can see the love and strength in their marriage. So yes, I am so grateful for having these friends in my life while I was thinking about meeting my husband. It took me from age 24 - 34, ten years to find my husband. I was interested in getting married ever since I was 17 because I enjoyed my little babysitting jobs and being with all kinds of families. I did not have my own family and knew I must create one of my own one day.
So all of these memories in my life and moments of realizing the different ways I went about acheiving each goal, lead me to become a wife, a mother and a professional relationship coach. My Transformations are real and deep. It is not easy going through all of the triumps and tribulations that I have had to overcome. The careers I had, skills I obtained, and a process to overcome all the painful feelings I hold until today. I still keep going through more and more obstacles. It is important to challenge yourself with lots goals.
Life is like a Roller Coaster! I remember watching Brian Tracy saying in one of his videos that we all go through one crisis, come out of one, then go into another. I believe that God is just pushing us as far as he thinks we must go to develop our strength of character. Each day is another one of his Tests!
Give me the pleasure of teaching you how to transform your own life for a better future!
Contact Linda Schwartz 858-652-1597
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